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Thursday, December 20, 2007

Movies for Holiday Season -- Part Two

Thursday, December 20, 2007

When I covered this topic earlier this month, I covered movies that my family tries to watch as a rule, movies that I watched growing up. But to be fair there are still other great movies out there. So here is a list of other movies that are great to watch for the holiday season.

There are still many other movies out there, so If you, the reader, feel that I have forgotten one or maybe more than one, feel free to comment and let us all know.

Blessed Be!

Monday, December 17, 2007

Yule Recipes -- Part Three -- Main Course

Monday, December 17, 2007

The hardest thing about cooking for the holidays is the main course, appetizers are easy for many people, but I know many people that burn or overcook their main course. Resulting in rubbery and dry turkey or ham. Here are a few recipes from a local radio show, On the Grill.
So Good Luck and Blessed Be!

Honey Glazed Smoked Ham

From Derrick Riches and about.com

This is a great way to take a regular cooked ham and turn it into something spectacular by applying a spicy rub and placing it in a smoker. Let it smoke for a long while and it will taste great.


1 6 pound "ready to eat" ham

1 cup pineapple juice

3/4 cup chicken stock

1/2 cup honey

1 1/2 tablespoon vegetable oil

1 tablespoon black pepper

1 tablespoon paprika

1 tablespoon sugar

1/2 tablespoon salt

2 teaspoon dry mustard

1/2 teaspoon cayenne

1/2 teaspoon ground cloves


The night before you smoke, mix together the pepper, paprika, sugar, salt, 1 teaspoon of dry mustard and cayenne. Rub over the surface of the ham, wrap in foil and let sit in the refrigerator overnight. In the morning remove the ham from the refrigerator and let it sit for 1 hour. In the meantime prepare the smoker. You will be smoking at about 210 degrees F. for 6 hours. Mix together the chicken stock, 3/4 cups of pineapple juice, vegetable oil, 1/2 teaspoon dry mustard, and cloves. Warm over medium heat until completely mixed. Place ham in smoker and baste with sauce once every hour. While the ham is smoking prepare the glaze by mixing together the honey, 1/4 cup on pineapple juice, 1/2 teaspoon dry mustard and a pinch of ground cloves. Brush generously with glaze a couple of times during the last hour of smoking.

Rotisserie Glazed Ham

This method of heating a Holiday ham gives it that crusty sweet coating that everyone loves. Start with low heat to get the ham up to temperature, then glaze and put on the flame to caramelize the sugar and give it a good crust.


1 5-pound ham, fully cooked

1/2 cup honey

1/2 cup sugar

2 teaspoons lemon juice

1 teaspoon cinnamon

1/2 teaspoon ground cloves


Place the ham on your rotisserie spit and place on the grill over a medium to low heat. Cook for about 13 minutes per pound or about 1 hour for a 5 pound ham. Meanwhile combine the honey, lemon juice, cinnamon and cloves. When the internal temperature reaches about 150 degrees F begin brushing the honey mixture over the surface of the ham. Once it is well coated start sprinkling the sugar over the ham. You want to get an even coating. Close lid and continue roasting until the sugar has started to turn brown and you can no longer see the sugar crystals. Turn off the heat, but leave the rotisserie running for 10 minutes to allow the sugar to set. Carefully remove ham from grill and rotisserie. Carve and serve.

Friday, December 14, 2007

The First Yule -- A Story

Friday, December 14, 2007
Once upon a time, long, long ago, a beautiful young woman lived on a blue and green island. She had many friends on the island, fairies, trees, flowers, rabbits, deer and birds... but she was the only person who lived there. She wanted to share her friends and her secrets with other people just like her, so she began to give birth. Every month when the moon was hiding, she gave birth. For the first six months, she gave birth to daughters with dark skin and eyes. For the last six moons of the year she gave birth to fair skinned daughters. On the seventh moon of every year the First Mother gave birth to a magickal, sacred oak.

As the years turned, many, many daughters were born, and quite a few oak trees as well. The daughters played games with the animals and each other, they climbed in the branches of the oak trees and gathered flowers with the fairies. One day the first born daughter of the First Mother gave birth herself. The First Mother was very proud and happy, her favorite friend Oak Tree(who was very wise) gave her a silver crown to wear and told her that she was now a Grandmother. Soon many of the daughters gave birth, and the island became an even happier place, full of babies and big girls and mommies who all played together with the animals, the trees and the fairies.

One winter night when the moon was hiding, one of the daughters gave birth to a baby that was different from anything they had ever known. It was not a daughter, it was not even an oak tree, it was a baby BOY! It was a very dark cold night, the longest winter's night of the year, so all the daughters and all the animals were snuggled up together to keep cozy and warm. After their excitement of seeing a brand new baby born passed, the daughters and the animals realized that the baby boy was not feeling well. He was not as strong or as warm as the babies and trees that were usually born on the island. They all began to worry about the new baby, and tried to help keep him warm. The animals with the furriest coats pushed up close to the mother and baby, the fairies sprinkled magick dust above him, and the little girls sang wonderful songs and danced around and around the room.

But the baby boy couldn't get warm enough and soon he was too cold and tired even to cry or to drink the healing milk from his mother. The First Grandmother was so afraid for the baby boy. She tried to hide her tears from her daughters and ran out into the forest. The snow was very deep and full of white glitter. She tried to walk but it was just to deep. So her friend the owl carried up above the snow filled clouds deep into the magick forest where her firstborn, most sacred wise friend Oak lived. The First Grandmother intended to ask Her friend for advise about the baby boy. When the owl reached the clearing where the sacred First Oak tree lived, the Grandmother gasped! There was no snow on the ground there, and in the middle of a perfect circle lay her friend the Oak. The tree had Fallen to the ground and broken into a pile of logs and branches. She rushed to kneel beside the broken tree, and her teardrops turned into sparkling icicles on her cheeks.

While she was trying to understand what had happened to her dear friend, a coyote entered the circle and brushed up beside her. First the coyote kissed her tears dry, and then whispered a secret in the First Grandmother's ear. The Grandmother nodded, and with the help of the coyote and the owl, she gathered some of the branches from her oldest friend Oak and they returned to her daughter and the baby boy.

Using the gifts from the Oak, and the secrets from the coyote, the Grandmother built the very first fire that anyone on the blue and green island had ever seen. The fairies were shocked, they had never seen anything dance like that without wings. The animals laughed, they had never seen colors so bright except on springtime flowers. The daughters didn't know WHAT to do, they had never felt anything as warm as the summer sand on the beach in the middle of winter.

The mother brought the baby boy close to the edge of the fire, closer than everyone else( they were still just a little bit scared of this new thing called fire). The baby boy opened his eyes just a little bit, and began to wiggle his fingers. Then he smiled and moved his toes too. When he was warm enough, he snuggled with his Mother and drank her milk, soon everyone was certain the baby boy would be okay. They were all so happy, they danced around the fire singing their favorite special songs and giving little gifts to the fire.

The baby boy grew up strong and happy because of the gift of the First Oak Tree. He had many sons of his own, and taught them all to plant acorns on the seventh dark moon of the year so that there would always be many, many oak trees on the island. Every winter, on the longest coldest darkest night of the year, all the people who lived on the blue and green island built a very special fire. They brought in a special tree and honored it with shiny ornaments and glittery fairy dust. They picked one very special branch or log and sang their favorite songs while they decorated it. Then they would give this beautiful log to the fore as a present... and all the children would hear the story of the gift of the First Oak tree.

On the longest night of the year, whenever you light a candle or build a fire, remember the story of the First Grandmother and the coyote who told her the secret. No matter how cold and dark it seems, The Sun will always be reborn and bring us warmth and light again

Tuesday, December 11, 2007

Yule Recipes -- Part Two -- Vegan

Tuesday, December 11, 2007

This is part of an ongoing series in Recipes for Yule. Part one can be found here.
While I prefer ham and turkey, there are many in the pagan community that cannot bring themselves to eat anything with a face.
And for those I have posted below a few recipes that are animal free. (Courtesy of veganfamily.co.uk)
Good Luck and Blessed Be!

Cashew Nut Roast with Sage and onion stuffing

A sixth of a cup/30g/1oz of vegan margarine

2 sticks of celery, finely chopped

1 medium leek, finely chopped

1 and a half cups of hot water

1 teaspoon of yeast extract (marmite, vegemite etc.)

3 cups/550g/16oz of ground cashew nuts (or other nuts of your choice - almonds work well too)

2 Tablespoons of soya flour

2 teaspoons of fresh herbs - winter savoury is great (if using dried 1 teaspoon)

3 cups/160g/6oz of white bread crumbs

seasalt and pepper to taste

sage and onion stuffing (see recipe further down the page)

Melt the margarine (in a large pan for mixing) and cook the celery and leek in it for a few minutes. Mix the yeast extract into the hot water (alternatively you could use any stock you like) and add this to the leek and celery. Stir in the soya flour, nuts, herbs, breadcrumbs and salt and pepper and mix well. Allow to cool slightly while you grease a loaf tin. Place half the nut roast mixture in the tin and press down well - then add the sage and onion stuffing (pressing down well again) and place the rest of the nut roast mixture on top. Bake in the oven for about 40 minutes at 180/360 then turn out of the tin and slice. Nice served with all the traditional trimmings.

Variations:- you can substitute wine (red or white) or soya milk for the water and yeast extract. The sage and onion stuffing is optional - it works just as well without it and might actually slice up easier! A layer of sliced mushrooms and garlic is an alternative to the stuffing.

Creamy mushroom Puff

A third of a cup/60g/2oz of vegan margarine

4 tablespoons of plain white flour

1 onion

4 cloves of garlic, crushed or very finely chopped (this can be reduced or left out if desired)

3 cups of mushrooms, sliced

half a litre/500ml of soya milk

1 glass of white wine (or stock)

handful of chopped parsley

salt and pepper to taste

approx. 500g/18oz of frozen puff pastry (this even comes ready-rolled now for extra laziness!!!)

Melt the margarine and cook the onion and garlic in it for a few minutes and then add the sliced mushrooms and cook for a couple of minutes more. Add the flour and stir well. Gradually add the soya milk stirring all the time and then the wine and keep stirring on a low heat until the sauce thickens. Once thick remove from the heat and add your seasoning and the parsley. Allow to cool slightly while you prepare the pastry. Roll out into 2 wide rectangular shapes reserving some pastry for decoration. Place one sheet of pastry on a greased baking tray. Heap the slightly cooled sauce onto it leaving a space round the edges. Place the top sheet on and seal up the edges with some soya milk or water (fold over if needed). Make some small slits on the top of the puff and let your artistic side shine with the reserved pastry! I usually make holly leaves to place on the top but do whatever you like. Glaze with soya milk and then bake in a medium hot oven for about half an hour or until the pastry seems cooked (no soggy bits and nicely puffed up!)

Nice served with gravy, roast potatoes, stuffing, vegan sausages, cranberry sauce and vegetables of your choice - a feast!

Sage and Onion Roast Potatoes

4 teaspoons of dried sage or 8 teaspoons of freshly chopped sage

4 tablespoons of sunflower oil

1 finely chopped onion

4 tablespoons of medium oatmeal

Potatoes, peeled and cut to desired size (this coating is enough for about 4 or 5 lbs/2 or 3 kilos.)

salt to taste

Par boil the potatoes then just when they are beginning to soften remove from heat and drain. Place in baking tray and rub the coating all over them (careful!) - roast in a hot oven until nice and crispy (30 minutes plus). You might want to baste with a little more oil half way through for extra crispiness!

Variation: sesame roast potatoes - coat the potatoes in sunflower oil and plenty sesame seeds before roasting - this has a lovely flavour too.

Friday, December 7, 2007

Top Movies for Holiday Season -- Part One

Friday, December 7, 2007

There are several books and movies out at this time of the year that kids will enjoy. Below is a list of movies that we try to watch as a family.

There are many other movies but this what we try to watch as a rule. If you haven't seen them I encourage you to buy them, you can click above. I don't recommend the newer version of the Grinch Stole Christmas, the one with Jim Carey, it is in my honest opinion not as good as the older cartoon version.
There are many other good movies for the Yule season, but with my children being younger they won't sit still for them, so we don't even try to watch. So get these movies or watch most of them on local television, make it one your family's new traditions.

Blessed Be!

Wednesday, December 5, 2007

Yule Recipes -- Part One -- Desserts

Wednesday, December 5, 2007

One of the best parts about the Yuletide season is the food. I mean there is family and trees and lights, but I love the food the most. So figured I would list some recipes for you all to try.
Some of the most scrumptious foods are found at Yule. From cakes and pies to turkeys and hams the food at Yule dinner can seem endless. And the foods that you cook now, will stick with your children for their whole lifetimes. Make a book of your recipes and pass them on to your children, when they finally grow up and leave your home.
And if you think that you can't cook, well try them anyways. You have to start to learn somewhere.


1 tablespoon active dry yeast
2/3 cup warm milk (110°F / 45°C)
1 large egg
1/3 cup white sugar
1/2 tablespoon salt
1/3 cup butter, softened
2 1/2 cups bread flour
1/3 cup currants
1/3 cup sultana raisins
1/3 cup red candied cherries, quartered
2/3 cup diced candied citron
6 ounces marzipan
1 tablespoon confectioners' sugar
1 teaspoon ground cinnamon

In a small bowl, dissolve yeast in warm milk. Let stand until creamy, about 10 minutes. In a large bowl, combine the yeast mixture with the egg, white sugar, salt, butter, and 2 cups bread flour; beat well. Add the remaining flour, 1/4 cup at a time, stirring well after each addition. When the dough has begun to pull together, turn it out onto a lightly floured surface, and knead in the currants, raisins, dried cherries, and citrus peel. Continue kneading until smooth, about 8 minutes. Lightly oil a large bowl, place the dough in the bowl, and turn to coat with oil. Cover with a damp cloth and let rise in a warm place until doubled in volume, about 1 hour.

Lightly grease a cookie sheet. Deflate the dough and turn it out onto a lightly floured surface. Roll the marzipan into a rope and place it in the center of the dough. Fold the dough over to cover it; pinch the seams together to seal. Place the loaf, seam side down, on the prepared baking sheet. Cover with a damp cloth and let rise until doubled in volume, about 40 minutes. Meanwhile, preheat oven to 350°F (175°C). Bake in the preheated oven for 10 minutes, then reduce heat to 300 degrees F (150 degrees C), and bake for a further 30 to 40 minutes, or until golden brown. Allow loaf to cool on a wire rack. Dust the cooled loaf with confectioners' sugar, and sprinkle with the cinnamon.

Yule Gingerbread
3 cups flour
1/2 cup brown sugar, packed
1/2 cup butter
3 eggs
4 tbs milk
1/2 cup light molasses
2 tbs dark molasses
2 tbs ground ginger
2 tsp ground cinnamon
1/4 tsp salt
2 tsp baking soda

Preheat your oven to 375F. Combine all the dry ingredients (except baking soda) in a large mixing bowl. Add 3 tbs of milk into a large saucepan along with the molasses (both) and butter. Melt together over low heat. Add beaten eggs and flour mixture to the melted ingredients. Dissolve baking soda in remaining 1 tbs of milk, then add to the batter. Pour batter into a greased 10-inch baking pan. Bake for approximately 45-50 minutes, or until a toothpick stuck in the middle comes out clean.

Blessed Be!

Monday, December 3, 2007

Decorations and Symbols of Yule -- Part One

Monday, December 3, 2007

Yule is a major holiday to many pagans; to some it is the beginning of the year and the rebirth of the Pagan God of Light, to others it is the return of the sun as Frey. But many decorations, symbols and traditions are held in common, even with Christmas and Hanukkah.
When people think of Yule, they, in most cases, instantly think of evergreens and mistletoe. Evergreens have always symbolized power to conquer death and winter, since they stay green throughout the year. Mistletoe was called "All-Heal" by the Druids and represented their god. There is also an ancient Norse legend relates that Freya, the goddess of love, placed mistletoe in a tree between Heaven and earth, and decided that people who pass underneath it should kiss. The plant then became a sign of love and friendship.
But what else can you decorate with as a Pagan practicing Yule? Well staying within the plant family there is Holly and Ivy, and there is the Yule log. Holly long a symbol of protection, it is also an evergreen bush. Also Romans at one time would send the plant to friends and family at the new year as a symbol of good wishes.
The Yule log was used by the Celts to symbolize the story of Yule. This log, representing the Oak King, adored with traditions evergreens, representing the Holly King, signifies the death of darkness and the warmth of the Sun during the newly born solar year. According to ancient Celtic tradition, the log should burn continuously for twelve days, and a bit of wood should be saved to start the next year’s fire. The first day of Yule varies depending upon religious belief. Pagans usually light the Yule fire on the Winter Solstice. This may not be practical especially in these days, when many do not have fireplaces. What you can do is take a oak log and decorate it with holly and mount three candles within it. Light these candles to represent the returning light. The number of candles does not matter, I have seen three candles, representing the three faces of the Goddess, and I have heard of eight, like the menorah.
Speaking of candles, they are also an appropriate decorations. The tradition of lighting candles may have come from the ancient Romans, who gave them as gifts during the festival of Saturnalia. Their brightness was thought to chase away the dark and urge the sun back into the sky.
Now we come to the Yule tree, itself. The Germans originally decorated their trees with fruit, candy, cookies, and flowers. These ornaments symbolized the abundance to come when the Sun shed His warmth. They decorated their trees with round, three-dimensional shaped ornaments replicating the shape of the Sun to honor it. You can also decorate the tree with tinsel and lights to represent the stars and put a star on the top to represent the sun and moon.
According to legend, the snowflake was formed from the tears that Demeter cried after Persephone’s descent into the Underworld. The microscopic flakes have six sides, and since six is the numerological digit associated with affection, the snowflake was used by Pagans as a winter symbol of love

So incorporate some of these things into your Yule traditions and make merry. Don't be afraid to take traditions of other religions, because in most cases a lot of these things have already been adopted from the Pagans of ancient Europe.

Blessed Be!

Friday, November 30, 2007

To Tree or not to Tree?

Friday, November 30, 2007

We have just went and got our Yule tree. Haven't decorated it yet but will consider posting pictures when I have it lit and decorated. So where actually does the Yule tree come from? Many stories are out there that talk about the Christian origins of decorating a tree. But I believe the tree was the replacement of the Yule log as fireplaces became less common.
It also serves as a symbol of rebirth and life everlasting, both things that are present in the pagan Yule ceremonies. Evergreens have always held a special place in the heart of men, the only tree that seems to conquer winter and all its harsh weather.
Now that we have covered the possible origins of the Yule tree, what is the best way to pick a tree? Below is a list copied from commercialappeal.com

  • Look for a tree with a healthy green appearance.

  • Run your hand along the branches to see if the needles are fresh and flexible. They should not come off in your hand.

  • Bump the trunk of the tree on the ground. If lots of needles fall off, the tree is not fresh. You can expect a few brown needles to fall off.

  • Make sure the base of the trunk is straight and 6 to 8 inches long so it can fit into a tree stand.

  • If you see splits in the trunk, the tree may have dried out previously.

  • Locally grown trees are usually fresher and less expensive than trees that have been shipped from a distance.

  • If possible, cover your tree with some type of tarp during transport to prevent it from drying out, particularly if it is going to be transported on top of your car.

  • If the tree is going to be kept outside several days before it goes into the house, place it out of direct sun and wind to keep it from drying out.

  • If the base of the tree has been cut within the last four to six hours, it will not need to be recut; if longer, the base should be recut so the tree can absorb water.

  • Cut straight across the trunk (not at an angle) and remove an inch or more from the bottom.

  • A cut tree will absorb a lot of water, particularly during the first week. It can use four to six quarts of water per day.

I recommend getting a real tree if you have the room, if for no other reason, at least because it is better for the environment. There are no readily accessible places at which to recycle a fake PVC tree. And a Yule tree farm, even if they use pesticides and herbicides, at least they replant what they cut and in the meantime the uncut trees are absorbing carbon dioxide and putting out oxygen.
And when the season is over, you have several options as what to do with the tree. You can compost for mulch, sometimes your local municipality may take it and use it themselves for mulch. My local municipality has a program in which they take the tree and sink it local ponds for fish habitats.
A third option is to buy a tree with roots and plant it in your yard, if you have the room. I'm not qualified to talk about finding the right species for your soil and climate. So seek advice from a qualified professional. But remember that this tree should only be indoors for about a week.
So good luck in your Yule tree hunting.

Blessed Be!

Thursday, November 29, 2007

Is Santa Claus bad for Children

Thursday, November 29, 2007

My children believe in Santa and I see nothing wrong with it. Now does this mean that they cannot tell the difference between reality and fantasy? I don't see it. My children are well rounded and for the most part complete.
There are articles out there that talk about the fact that if parents say that Santa Claus is real they are lying to their children. And lying is bad, right? Yet I argue that telling children the whole truth about many things is detrimental to them. As much as we wish to deny it the world is a dark and evil place. Now I don't advocate lying to children but allowing them a common fantasy that most of their peers will share cannot be bad; in fact I believe that it would be wrong to make them the only kids in school to say that Santa is make-believe.
Now some of you may say that Santa is too Christian, but I will disagree with that. Santa Claus, or Old Kris Kringle, is in fact very very Pagan. He has elfs and he practices magic. He is too jolly for most Christians, reminds me of a Scottish Highlander who lives for good Scotch. Here is a good song by Emerald Rose about the fact that Santa Claus is Pagan too! Link
So in my honest opinion, Pagans of the world need to unite and reclaim Santa as a incarnation of the Holly King, buy the Woodland Santa's so popular now, put a star on the tree and sing Yule carols. Exchange gifts and say Happy Yule in response to Merry Christmas. Be pagan and be proud.

Blessed Be!

Tuesday, November 27, 2007

My Daughter's first altar

Tuesday, November 27, 2007
With Lassair only being three it is not an elaborate one but it is a start. We have a old miniature mirrored vanity that we got for free. On this vanity there is a statue of the Goddess on there surrounded by various crystals.
It has been cleansed, blessed and consecrated but right now this altar will be unused except as an introduction to the Craft. When she gets a little older and learns some patience then we will teach her the basics of circle etiquette, and rules of ritual.
I have tried often to create a checklist to determine when a child is circle-ready; and what I have drawn together is as follows:

Awareness of the Self
Ability to follow simple instructions

Awareness of the Self will most probably come first. It did for both of my daughters. And then probably will come the ability to follow simple instructions. Both of my daughters learned this from having a list of chores to complete. Chores also help to teach self-responsibility.
Patience. That elusive quality that allows one to sit in silence for five to ten minutes without fidgeting. So elusive in fact that there are adults among us that do not know how to have patience. I have found it beneficial in my house to turn off the TV and radio and find activities that don't require constant stimulus.
Not that my children are the most patient children but they are better behaved than most other children I have met. In other words I can take them out to eat and to other quiet places without worry about being thrown out.
But even when your child shows these admirable qualities, I still recommend that you start slow. Introduce them to one thing at a time. I plan on starting with just bringing her into circle for the small, short rituals.
Only later moving on to more elaborate ritual but in the meantime I will content myself to just celebrating the Sabbats with her through traditions.

Blessed Be!

Monday, November 26, 2007

Teaching my child the Sabbats

Monday, November 26, 2007
Me and my wife, Danielle have decided to try to teach my youngest daughter, Lassair, the story of the Sabbats. Below is a picture of her altar and the drawing of The Wheel of the Year that Danielle drew for her.

At the top is a picture of a Yule tree and then, continuing clockwise, a candle, an Ostara Egg, a maypole, a sun, ear of corn, then a autumn leaf, and finally a pumpkin.
Then Danielle hands me the picture and tells me to explain it to the kid. So I start with Yule the birthday of the God and move on to Imbolc which is about him as a young child. Then comes Ostara, celebration of his mother and future wife, Eostre, Goddess of Spring. Beltaine is when the Goddess becomes pregnant. And Litha is the day of the Goddess and God's marriage. Lughnassadgh is about the Death of the God and the birth of the new God, the one of the dark half of the year. Mabon is next and is the time of the Pagan thanksgiving when we give thanks for all the Goddess gives us. Samhain is about family and when we miss the Goddess, who has gone to the Underworld to fetch our God so that he can be born at Yule.
Now this story was accompanied by fidgeting, a lot of fidgeting. But she enjoyed the story and has said so multiple times, also repeating small parts of it over and over and over.
Now this is just a beginning and hopefully a guide for you to teach your children the mystery and wonder of the Sabbats.
Throughout the next year I will go over these Sabbats again with her, in greater detail. Through stories and song, though I can't sing worth a lick, and various activities. Some of these things will have a historical basis and can be traced back to other families in history, and some will be brand new, inventions of my own mind and possibly the minds of others.

Sunday, November 25, 2007


Sunday, November 25, 2007
Now that another "Black Friday" has come and gone, the issue of the over-commercialization of America has risen again. Our children are more worried about 'buy me, buy me' than they are about being grateful for what they already have. This fact is mostly an extension and one of the various incarnations of the entitlement mentality that has been bred into our society since the 1930's.
Our society has forgotten the true meaning of the holidays, all of them. We have forgotten about the importance of family and kinship. Subsequently our societal structure is collapsing around us. Our homes and marriages are breaking in record numbers.
Yet the other reason for all of this is the lack of spirituality in our culture. In our rush from the oppressiveness of the past we have run clear to the other side of the spectrum, forgoing all religion and spirituality. Without faith in something, anything, there really is no moral compass. Not to say that atheists can't be moral. For oftentimes it is not atheists, but rather those who profess to be religious that lack morals and spirituality.
This problem is not a specific problem of anyone faith, it affects them all, from Pagan to Christian and so on. Too many people say they are Pagan or Christian or whatever, but they have a only a belief rather than a faith in their God and religion.
This lack of faith falls squarely on the shoulders of the parents of this generation and those past. And it is up to us, to change this. It matters not what you have faith in as long as you have faith in something. Faith is what carries us through the tough times without it we run the risk of foundering. Is this not then one of the greatest lessons that we can teach our children?
Yet it is not just about the faith that you hold, you must be able to have a faith that can compromise and be compatible with the faith of your partner. I realized the hard way that two incompatible faiths, or even one faith that is incompatible with any other but its own, leads to conflict and the same result as no faith, a broken home and a divorce.
But if you can find a partner with a common faith and raise your children in that faith then you have the taken the first few and tentative steps towards improving the world. For although most of us do not have the power to change the world at large, we do have the power to change ourselves and our family and then through that change the our immediate world.

Blessed Be!

Sunday, November 11, 2007

I am a Pagan Conservative

Sunday, November 11, 2007
Most pagans I have met think that this title is a contradiction in terms since they are liberal themselves. But it is my opinion that the root values of conservatism, values that have been lost in the partisan bickering, are inherently pagan. Freedom to be who you choose, freedom to become who you choose, freedom from taxes, freedom from a repressive government that tells me what and how to believe. What is more pagan than these freedoms? I also believe that true conservatism is about self-governship and self-responsibility, both of which are beliefs of many (if not all) pagans.

I try my best to teach these values to my children. I teach them that no one can make them happy or sad but themselves; unless they cede that power to them. I show them that they have the power to succeed in anything they do regardless of the obstacles. That they can become or do anything that they wish to in their lives. I tell them of the greatness of America and of the constitution.

While most pagans believe that war is evil and unnecessary; I believe that war sometimes is necessary. British statesman Edmund Burke said it most eloquently; "Evil flourishes when good men do nothing". If the pacifists sit by while those that wish them dead run rampant, then they will die. As much as people want to deny it, this world that we live in is still governed by the use of aggressive force. But we must not live in fear rather we must accept responsibility for ourselves and for our actions and face the aggressors unabashedly.

The biggest turnoff, in my opinion, of many pagans from the conservative movement is the religious right. The religious right served its purpose in bringing conservatism to the forefront of America. But now all it does is alienate the non-Christian conservatives and keep many liberals from switching camps. Yet at the same time they have many things to offer to non-pagans and pagans alike.

As I have grown in the Craft I have drawn closer to the original message of Christianity; Love. And I also tout the morals and ethics of the early Christians. Now most pagans don't like the idea of ethics beyond the rede of harm none but ethics are a necessary thing.

In my coven the phrase that we teach is;

May we learn to live in love and light
So that we may have strength and truth
And that we may receive power and blessings

This means that we should to love first ourselves and then let that love spread to all around you. This will bring light and happiness to your life and to your family. That love will give you strength to live in truthfully. In other words to not lie, to not harm and to do good; showing kindness to all. This will bring you power, power to do good, to influence people for the better. And the power to bring blessings first to your life and to the lives of your friends and family.

I believe that more people believed in these things. To sum up, these things are; Freedom, self-responsibility, love, and truth, bound all by the rede of harm none. So remember this on Veterans Day, the religious right does not necessarily have to be christian. May the Goddess and God bless all of our soldiers, both to those currently serving and to those that have served, and to those that have died.

Blessed Be!

Tuesday, November 6, 2007

Lessons from a Father to his Children

Tuesday, November 6, 2007
What is it that a father should teach his children? I have stressed in previous articles about the importance of being a good father, but what exactly is it that makes someone a good father? We have covered how to be good men which leads to being a great father. But what is it that we should teach our children? What lessons are there that they need to learn?

The most important lesson a father can teach his children is love. We are a nation of people that have forgotten how to love. There is a Greek word, a'stor-gos, that embodies this. It translates roughly, to having no natural affection and suggests a lack of a love that should exist among family members, specifically between children and their parents. You can easily see how this leads to problems. This lack of affection and love has led to all of the crimes against our children by both parents and non-parents alike. Parents have stopped loving their kids and subsequently the kids have stopped loving and respecting their parents in return.

If the children are corrupted and wandering in the dark, then there is truly no hope for the future. Men need to step up and overcome their backgrounds and upbringing. To forgive themselves and learn to love themselves. For if we have love in our hearts than that love will spread to the other people around us in our life. If we as men can overcome our backgrounds and learn to love then we can teach this most important lesson to our children and stop the long cycle of self-hate, pity and loathing.

Yet this does not just include how we treat our children or the children of others it should include how we treat all of the women in our lives. For if the women, who raise our children, are messed up and have issues then how are they to help raise the children of the world?

One of the easiest ways to teach our children love is through spirituality. It really does not matter what it is that you believe in, as long as you believe in something and that it is rooted in love. Teach them that love is the center and root of all things good in this world. And that there is a deity out there that loves them regardless of who or what they are and with very little extra effort on your part than your children will learn about love.

If you can succeed in learning love and then in passing that lesson on to your children. You can begin to show them how to live in light and how to spread that light to the world around them. Kindness and compassion is the key to this. To have a smile and a kind word for your fellow man is the easiest gift that you can ever give.

Teach your children to do good deeds and to have compassion for those that deserve it and for those that will appreciate it. I am a conservative libertarian who does not believe in our entitlement welfare society. Rather I believe in teaching people how to grow food and how to make money, rather than teaching them to just sit by and wait for the powers to be to hand them a check or food. But if someone is in need of food or of help then I will help them if I can as long as I am able to take care of me and my own first. I do this because I understand that sometimes hard times fall on good people.

But people should first work hard to achieve something in their lives and to stop waiting for other people to care for them. This is the third lesson to teach children; self-independence. For if we could all learn how to live in love and to show light to the world around us and then learn how to take care of ourselves then the world would be a much better place indeed.

Now while these are the most important lessons to teach your children, they are also the hardest lessons to learn ourselves and the hardest lessons to teach our children. But no one ever said that being a father was an easy job.

Blessed Be!