In the last week I have talked about the importance of faith over religion and raising children with faith. But what do you do if your family is lacking in the faith department? We live in a stressful, non faith conducive world. So it is easy to do. To fall away from faith and stop living a spiritual life.
There are many things that one can do to both connect with your family and to connect them (and yourselves) to faith.

  • Family Altar
  • Meals together with Prayers
  • Bedtime prayers said together
  • Worshiping in Circle together
  • Acting as living reminders to each other
Some of these are harder to do then others but they all will work to remind each of you to have faith. For space reasons, I personally do not have a family altar up, but it is in my plans for the new year, when I can afford to buy smaller furniture which will clear up room. Yet the idea of a house altar that serves as a focal point for the faith of the family is a very ancient idea.
The best placement for the altar is up to you. But strive to place it somewhere that everyone will see it often. You can decorate it for the different Sabbats and make it a center of your family rituals.
Praying together, whether at meal times or at bedtime or any other time, strengthens the bonds of family with the glue of faith. So do it. Pray together often. And when the occasion arises take the time for all to say thanks to the Gods for all that they have received.
When the children get old enough they should be included in ritual with the family. This serves at least two purposes. The first being of course to increase the bonds of family. And the second being to prepare them for the ritual outside of the home in the public eye.
The last one may be the hardest one and is one that I have borrowed from Christianity. We all "backslide". You know, get tired of the effort and the daily grind. Yet if we have someone at hand to remind us of why we do what we do and to hold us up through the trials our faith can survive and even strengthen.
If anyone out there has any other ideas please feel free to post them in the comments below.
Blessed Be!

4 Comments:

  1. Lorie on September 22, 2008 10:14 AM

    We are a family who was originally Christian turned Wiccan? My daughters are 12 and 9, and my sons are 7, 6, and 2. Th 2 yr old would be easier to teach for me, but how would I go about teaching my older children when I'm still learning myself? I've been Wiccan for 3 yrs now. My 9 yr old is loves it. She reads her workbook and knows the basics of elements, colors, the quarters, and the like. My 12 yr old wants to learn but she's in the lazy "I don't wanna read about it and just say I am" stage. I don't want to even go near it with her if she's like that. I don't even know how to approach it with my older boys because they really were never Christian or Wiccan. My husband hasn't been a practicing anything for I don't know how long and the baby sits with me when I do my rituals and daily devotion. How do I go about bringing my family together in this? Any suggestions?

     
  2. Patrick McCleary on September 22, 2008 10:31 AM

    This is something that I am trying to solve myself with my work in FWTI. (We are working on putting together a curriculum for kids of all ages. But it is still in the rough stages.) So you may want to sign up to their Yahoo group. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FamilyWiccanTraditionInternational/
    Since my youngest is just shy of turning five, I have been trying to introduce her to the basics. We do family (full) moons together and celebrate the Sabbats together as well.
    All you can do with your sons is to just jump in it with them and begin to show them the basics. Think a curriculum a lot like Scott Cunningham.
    For example show them representations of the elements and tell them the colors and the directions. This worked with my youngest and while she is to young to remember most of it, I figured if I repeat it enough then it will eventually stick.
    I hope that this helps. Feel free to use the contact link above and email me if you have any other questions. I think also that I am going to write a blog article on this in the next week or so. So stay posted.
    Blessed Be!

     
  3. Rainbow Rivers on March 24, 2009 2:22 PM

    Great article! We also have been working on a curriculum for pagan families for all ages. http://cauldroncurriculum.onefireplace.com/
    I think the most important step is living your beliefs, kids learn by observing and if they see you doing things such as caring for the earth, rituals, houseblessing, animal blessings and such they learn a great deal.

     
  4. Patrick McCleary on March 24, 2009 4:02 PM

    Glad that you liked the article.
    If you haven't already you should check out FWTI. They are a great organization dedicated to the idea of raising kids in the faith of their parents. There is a link in the upper corner of my blog if you are interested.

     
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