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Thursday, February 26, 2009

They Are Human As Well

Thursday, February 26, 2009
Continuing on in my series on the list of Pagan Parenting Tips, we come to number nine which is much like number one but number ten ties in well, so we will do that one as well today.

Rule number nine, be sure to tell your children you love them.

Rule number ten, you are human and make mistakes. Remember your children are the same.

I look around and see many parents that yell at their children because they come up short and fail to be perfect. But they fail to see the plank in their own eye.

Children are our future and if we cut them short and yell at them for failure than they will never be all that they could possibly be. This means that our future will not be bright as it can be.

So just remember to love your kids and remember that they are far from perfect. Just like the rest of us.

Blessed Be!


Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Don't Worry - Just Show Them the Wiccan Life

Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Today's post ties in a lot to yesterday's. But the message is don't worry to much about trying to make your children Wiccan. It is my firm belief that Wicca, being that it is such an experiential religion, will be the religion that many children will grow up to choose if they are raised in and not forced to practice it.

This is what this blog is dedicated to. Dedicated to the concept of making the celebration and practice of Wicca enjoyable for children of all ages. Wicca is not a religion obsessed with ritual and dogma, or at least it shouldn't be. Instead it is a religious practice focused on the experience of the individual.

So as your children come to the age, or maybe they are already old enough, to learn about Wicca. Think about this post. Don't force it on your children like so many parents forced Christianity on their children. Instead make it fun and show your children some respect.

Blessed Be!


Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Don't Push Religion

Tuesday, February 24, 2009
I have mixed feelings on the the sixth tip on the list of Pagan Parenting tips. I believe in raising children with spirituallity and religion. But I can agree not to push the issue with them.

For my youngest she enjoys practicing the Wiccan faith. She gets upset if she forgets her prayers, I have to explain to her that they aren't required just thinking of Them is enough, she keeps forgetting. She loves the fire and the feel of our rituals.

So for me this is easy. I introduced Wicca to her early and as she gets older I will introduce her to the other religions. It is not necessarily the religion that is important to me. Rather it is her spirituallity and whether or not she is a spiritual person.

Nothing is more important than knowing that we hear the voice of the Gods, guiding and helping us through all parts of our life. There are many things that have happened in my life, most importantly how I met my wife, that I know were the will of the Universe.

What are your thoughts? For those that get my email update you can always just click reply. For everyone else leave a comment below. I am really interested in all of your thoughts.

Blessed Be!


Monday, February 23, 2009

Live Through Your Kids

Monday, February 23, 2009
Now normally this would be bad advice, but if you don't take it to an extreme it can be very good advice. Encourage your kids to have fun, and have fun with them. Through this you can have a second childhood.

I have chosen for this article to tie together both tip number five and tip number seven. Here are those two tips.

5. The best thing about being a parent is that you get to do all the things you wish you could have done as a kid, & in a way you can heal you own inner child.

7. Laugh & play with your children. Be part of their fun. It will strengthen your bond & it can heal a lot of the grimness & hardness we all accumulate over the years. Your kids can teach you a lot about how to be happy, to reconnect with the child-self within all of us & how to make life special again.

I think they are well said and sum themselves up quite well.

So think about what you have done lately to have fun with your kids? For me and my family we fish and camp. Go to the movies and sometimes just take a walk. Although my oldest doesn't like to walk for to long.


Sunday, February 22, 2009

Be an Example of Honor

Sunday, February 22, 2009
I am continuing my series on Pagan Parenting tips this week. Today's tip is about teaching children honor and how to show respect by doing this to your children. This is more important than just showing your children that you treat others with respect. We are whom our children learn the most from, so it is important that we treat them how we want to treat the world at large.

And I think treating others with the respect that they deserve is probably the most important lesson that any of us can learn. I am still amazed with the lack of respect and service to be found in the customer service representatives that I meet or talk to on a daily basis.

I for one don't want my kid to grow up to be one of those rude people that we all hate to deal with. But like I said in the beginning we must give our children this respect so that they can know that we are genuine in giving respect. And not just giving respect because we care what other people think.

Blessed Be!


Thursday, February 19, 2009

Remember They are Watching

Thursday, February 19, 2009
This third step in my series on pagan parenting tips, is a reminder on how kids are always watching us as parents and use us as an example on how to act. Whether it is what we say or what we do or even how we do either of those things, we are a role model.

So we must make sure that we do our best to be the best that we can be. I know its a cliche but bear with me.

For me this strikes a deep chord because I feel it is my responsibility as a man to be the image of who I want my daughters to marry. The old saying I have always heard is that girls grow up to marry their fathers. So I must make extra careful to treat their mother and other women as well, with the utmost respect that they deserve.

If you guys have any thoughts just post them in the comments.

Blessed Be!


Wednesday, February 18, 2009

Be Happy

Wednesday, February 18, 2009
Part two in my ongoing series on pagan parenting tips is on keeping children positive and upbeat.

Children learn most about their view on life from their parents. So it is important that we stay positive and have an upbeat attitude.

For me this has been tough to cultivate in myself. I used to stress a lot over bills and money and trying to be the best father I could be. But I have learned that all the stressing, didn't make me the best father. In fact it moved me quite a ways in the opposite direction.

We can stress in private, and I sometimes do, but we shouldn't show it to our children. Now don't get me wrong, we should not sugarcoat the world and its problems but we do need to show our children how to face these things with a positive attitude.


Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Rule 1 -- Love Your Child

Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Yesterday I posted a list that I found searching the internet. This list was 13 Pagan Parenting Tips. But I felt that it just wasn't enough to leave it at that. I wanted to post my own thoughts on each of the items on the list.

Today I wanted to talk about something that is dear to my heart and that I have talked about to an extreme; Love.

I have met many parents that raise their children as a responsibility. All that they do is out of duty. Whether it is clothing, feeding or any other variety of things that parents do.

But in my house their is an overabundance of love. In fact my roommate has been known to say I hear 'I Love You' more in the last few weeks than I have in years. Yet saying I love you is not enough, it must be shown.

This is the true way to instill high self esteem in your children. Not sheltering them from all the harms and failures of the world. Another habit of bad parents. Children must learn from their mistakes and it is better that they do when they are young and their parents are around to help them recover.

So I know that if you are reading this that you are good parents. But when was the last time you decided to have a real conversation with your kid or kids? They are crying out for attention, make sure that they get the right kind of attention.

Blessed Be!


Monday, February 16, 2009

13 Pagan Parenting Tips

Monday, February 16, 2009
I found this interesting list today while looking for topics. It is posted today in full, but over the next week or so I want to go into them into greater detail.

I hope that you enjoy.

By Jim Garrison

1. First & foremost, love your child. Self-esteem is a valuable commodity. A few kind words or a simple hug from you as your children are growing up could save thousands of dollars in therapy bills down the road.

2. It is essential to the continued good health & well-being of any parent to cultivate a possitive outlook as much as possible. No, I don't mean running out & joining the Barney fan club. What I mean is that it is important to welcome every good thing that comes into your life, so that as you show gratitude, your child learns to likewise develope gratitude. You can't expect your child to develope such things without first learning them from you.


3. As a parent, you have incredible power & influence in shaping the life & attitudes of your child. Its a big responsibility. Being a parent is a task & obligation that defines us, our role, & our community from that point onward. Parents shape the future through their children. Think about what you teach your child, the words you use around them, & the way you respond to their needs & demands.

4. Be fair, honest, & open in how you treat your child. No good comes from lying to your children. Attempting to teach your child the concepts of honor, integrity, & honesty will force you to adhere to these same things. If that doesn't teach you some humility, nothing will.


5. The best thing about being a parent is that you get to do all the things you wish you could have done as a kid, & in a way you can heal you own inner child.

6. I do not preach to my child. I dislike proselytizing, & will not condone it in my home. I raise my child to be tolerant of other religions. I encourage my child to think for herself, to make up her own mind, & to feel free to discuss or question anything. If I can't explain to her that I need to get some sleep so I can go to work in the morning, how am I going to explain such things as manners, bounderies, spirituality, or (eventually) sexuality to her? I see my child developing in leaps & bounds & going places I could never have gone at her age. Watching her grow has given me a renewed & deepenedrespect & reverance for the way life works.

7. Laugh & play with your children. Be part of their fun. It will strengthen your bond & it can heal a lot of the grimness & hardness we all accumulate over the years. Your kids can teach you a lot about how to be happy, to reconnect with the child-self within all of us & how to make life special again.

8. Act responsibly & show some respect to your children. If they want to follow in your footsteps, there's plenty of time to do things right. Your children don't have to be initiated to grow up within the Craft. When & where it's appropriate, include you children. Create your own rituals together, traditions that the whole family can share & take pride & pleasure in. Provide them with suitable activities, like seasonal crafts & decorating the house. Take this special time to teach your children the stories & myths, the reasons you do what you do. Give them the chance to participate in the fun Pagan stuff & don't make a big deal about what goes on in the circle -- leave that for another day, when they are more mature & ready to deal with it in a spiritual context.

9. Always let your child know that you love them & take pride in them, no matter what. The three most powerful magic words in the English language are "I love you." Don't be afraid to use them on your kids frequently.


10. You're human & make mistakes. WE all know this. Make sure that your children know this, too. That way they'll know its ok for them to make mistakes, & then they won't have to watch as you fall off of that pedestal they might have built for you. Their expectations are shaped in response to your own. Cut them a little more slack than you do yourself. They haven't made all the same choices you have, & they may see things differently than you do.

11. Empower your kids. Teach them how to get things done. As they get older, show them how to do things for themselves. Learning how to cook or help to so the laundry can cultivate problem-solving skills better than practically anything else. After a few domestic training sessions, you'll find the shared context useful in explaining all manner of things to them down the road.

12. Encourage your children to read, first by reading to them, then by having them read to you. One of the most powerful & important acts of magic in literacy. This is a very important gift to give your child, & one that will enrich & enhance their life.

13. Listen to your children. They can sometimes teach you a great deal about things you probably have been taking for granted for a long time. Just remember that you're the parent & it's up to you to set the limits & boundaries for you children, not the other way around. Give them their say, but the final decision is yours.

Llewellyn's 1999 Magical Almanac


Wednesday, February 4, 2009

Children and Rituals

Wednesday, February 4, 2009
One of the questions that was put to me in the last month was how do I take my solitary and eclectic practice and boil it down to something that I can do, first with my family and second with my young children most of all?

So I figured I would try to address that issue here. I am probably one of the most eclectic Wiccans on the planet. I take a little from everything and only keep what works. My family coven doesn't cast circle in the usual manner. We each take a turn walking through the five elemental points and in doing so make the circle of energy.

And while my rituals were never that elaborate, to a five year old they are long and boring. So I have had to make things shorter and most importantly, children interactive and friendly.

The rituals, as you can see from past rituals that I have posted, put the child to the forefront and give her an important role in every thing. My reasoning is how can she be bored if she is doing quite a bit.

So now I pose the question to all of you, how do you make rituals work for your children?