Now for those of us that have no patience there is a few things that we can try.
- Take a deep breath. When your kids hit your button and I remember as a teenager it became a goal, I'm sorry to say just close your eyes and take a deep breath. Then come back to the situation with a fresh and clear focus.
- Count to 10. I know it is an old cliche but it oftentimes will be all that works.
- Walk away separate the parties involved and come back with a cooler head.
- Meditation. Okay I know that you won't be able to stop in the middle of something and meditate but if you meditate on a regular basis then you will find that your patience will grow.
Don't confuse being patient with being a door mat. Children, of all ages, need rules and guidelines. So don't be afraid to put your foot down but try exercising a little patience. I have met many parents that yell . . . a lot. Their kids learn to just hide their misbehaving better and not get caught. They are the kids that are also afraid to talk to their parents and let them into their world. As I have talked about in the past they don't have an open door relationship. My children feel free to tell me anything and because I try very hard to exercise patience and not yell and scream, and I try very hard to be fair in punishments. And as I continue with this I hope that they will continue to do this into the teenage years and beyond into adulthood.
If any of you have any tips that I haven't listed don't hesitate to offer up some comments and let us all know. Click here for the rest of this series.
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